cool-daniela-fan said: Is it possible to have a heterosexual relationship without some power imbalance? Is gender hyerarchy always going to be in the way? I am a woman, I've never been in a sexual relationship, and I cannot imagine kissing a man passionately without submitting to some forceful behavior, however mild or implied. Is there a way out of this predicament?
Submitting to men is learned through socialisation. If gender is abolished, and we just differentiated between male and female sex,then we would not learn this power imbalance. Females are not innately feminine/submissive, it’s an idea imposed by patriarchy to oppress women. This is why kinks like BDSM exist, which glorifies this harmful gendered power imbalance and consequently supports misogyny. Males are taught to dominate women, women learn to think it’s common place.
So, the first step to rid power imbalance in relationships, is to abolish gender (femininity/masculinity).